More Money? What Needs to Happen First...
Updated: May 13, 2019
Is the Key to Earning More Wealth Self Worth?
This is a complicated question, to simply declare that we are worth more money is nice to say, yet what matters is the underlying belief. If the belief does not match the declaration, it will be empty and will make no difference in your life experience.
What to do about this? Where to start? Again, like I said in the prior article, the place to start is not necessarily seeking opportunities for more money.. YET. That will come, but there is work to do first.
The very first thing to do is to ask yourself… how are you showing up in your life right now? For instance, at your current place of work is there resentment toward it? Avoidance? Are you frequently trying to get out of responsibilities or would you rather not be doing the assignments that fall within your role?
Be HONEST. Honesty with yourself will set you free. There is no need to share this honesty with anyone else outside of a therapist you can trust. This is about getting honest within the self. Journaling is a useful tool, it can dramatically aid in clarifying and organizing your thoughts and insights.
The thing is, if you are showing up for your current employment with only 50% effort, this is equal to what you feel you’re worth… about 50% of what you want, about 50% of others’ effort, love and attention. When seeking reciprocity, which was discussed in the previous article, you will get 50% of what you’re hoping for. However, the problem is that you desire 100%... so receiving only 50% is frustrating and seems unfair.
What if you showed up to work 100%? What would that look like? What would you be like? How would other people respond to you? Would they be surprised? Would you be more effective or efficient? Would you feel more committed to your work or the task at hand?
Yet the next question to follow is this… why bother? If you are in a job that you feel is menial then why bother putting in 100% effort? After all, doesn’t this mean that you believe the job is silly, worthless or demeaning? What about the gas station attendant pumping gas? Is this a meaningless position to hold? Is this you? Or is this how you think of someone within that position?
What about the man who picks up cans for a living, collecting them and redeeming them. Is this frowned upon? Does he feel that this is the “bottom of the barrel” so to speak?
Here is the message to take to the bank… whatever position you hold is the position you are in. You are there now… so OWN IT. When you OWN it, give it 100% then you will begin to make change. Then your personal sense of worth will grow. Then you will begin to experience greater reciprocity. Then you will begin to receive 100% return. Then you will begin the Long Walk to Freedom. And that Long Walk will be the most pleasurable of your life.
You see, when we own where we are and begin to put forth 100% effort we witness what we are capable of. If the gas station attendant puts in 100% effort, she will see her efficiency, her intuitive customer service, her ability to organize and prioritize. In response, she will experience appreciation, she will experience successful days which are fulfilling regardless of the position she holds. Her beliefs around her job will begin to change.
If she continues to put forth 100% effort day after day after day, she will begin to view her job as meaningful. She will begin to view her presence there as useful. As she puts forth this effort, over time, she will not only see her job as a more worthwhile position, she will see herself as a worthwhile, capable human being. Once she begins to understand this… well, the world becomes her Oyster.
Consider the content of this article. Answer the questions. Write about it in your journal. Search yourself honestly. There will be more articles to come. There is more work to do.
Sarah is a psychotherapist and life coach. She specializes in anxiety, body image, eating disorders, and trauma. If you're interested in working with Sarah, contact her for a free consultation.